Sunday 15 December 2013

Porn Talk: A Conversation (Part I)

Psychology Tomorrow Magazine presents the first in a series of conversations between Nica Noelle, porn director, actor, and media journalist and Benjamin Peck, attorney, porn actor and frequent contributor to Psychology Tomorrow Magazine.

Here, Nica and Ben discuss feminist porn, sexual identity, gender roles and women’s desires in relation to porn.

"BP: Do you consider yourself a feminist porn creator? In your view, what are the most salient characteristics of feminist porn? Do you think feminist porn suffers from any conceptual flaws? If you do, in what ways do you think they could be remedied?

NN: I think the term “feminist porn” is both inaccurate and unfortunate, but I can see why the mainstream media latched onto it: it’s catchy, and when used in a headline it has traction. But no, I don’t consider myself a “feminist porn creator.”

First of all, the word “feminism” has far too many political connotations, many which are negative or alienating to men (and to women, for that matter) to be useful in this context. That aside, it’s my understanding that originally “feminist porn” was meant to describe erotic films created by women who were taking a more sensitive and thoughtful approach to their work than the average (male) porn producer. The implication being this was “good” porn, not “sleazy” porn. Also that it was “ethical” porn, though I’m not sure why that assumption should follow. The notion that porn is somehow better or more ethical just because a woman is behind the camera is complete nonsense and understandably insulting to men.

What we’re seeing in porn right now is a changing of the guard and a new, emerging sensibility, but it has nothing to do with feminism. Feminists didn’t come in and take over – fans just started demanding better porn, because the Internet has allowed them a safe way to do it. Now fans can anonymously voice their pleasure and displeasure about a movie, which they could never do before the Internet. Fans can write film reviews and blogs and generate “buzz” for certain titles. Also, now we have access to market research because of VOD (video on demand), when for so long there was no market research in porn. All of that has resulted in fans being able to demand a higher quality product and reward filmmakers who give it to them.

But feminists didn’t come in and revolutionize anything. Male consumers are still the backbone of the adult industry, and men were the first to ask for and reward better story lines, more realistic sex and higher production values. So, while it’s wonderful that so many women have become more vocal about what they want to see and are openly identifying as “porn fans,” we certainly don’t need to give the credit for “better porn” to the feminist community. We don’t need to attach gender politics to it at all.

Like most industries, adult film has been forced to evolve to survive in the changing economical and technical landscape. That meant providing fans with a better product and responding to their needs. And as a result of those increased standards, people who would have never considered a career in adult films ten years ago are now coming here with artistic agendas – both behind and in front of the camera. There’s a growing perception that adult film has become a legitimate medium for artistic expression and it’s attracting more serious-minded people."

READ MORE: http://www.psychologytomorrowmagazine.com/a-conversation-between-porn-stars-nica-noelle-and-ben-peck/

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Porn Talk: A Conversation (Part II)

Psychology Tomorrow Magazine presents the first in a series of conversations between Nica Noelle, porn director, actor, and media journalist and Benjamin Peck, attorney, porn actor and frequent contributor to Psychology Tomorrow Magazine.

Here, Nica and Ben discuss feminist porn, sexual identity, gender roles and women’s desires in relation to porn.

"BP: How important is context/storyline in your porn? As I understand it, feminist porn provides a compelling link between “mere sex” and the reason why the sex is taking place. In your work, do you think well-established context makes the sex hotter?

NN: I don’t think it’s true that “feminist porn” innovated story lines. Story-line driven adult films have been around for decades. Not only that, but many of the titles screened at this year’s Feminist Porn Awards had no storylines at all – there were a lot of artsy, avant garde type-offerings, with poetry voice-overs and that sort of thing.

If I had to give you a definition for the term “feminist porn,” it would be a sexually explicit movie created by a woman, not “for” other women, but purely for her own sense of sexual expression. That definition would ring true to me, because it removes the viewer’s desire from the equation, and it removes the “male gaze” from the equation. It’s about a woman in complete control of the way her sexuality is depicted. I think you could call a film like that “feminist porn” and it would be an accurate description.

Storyline is very important in my films, but only as a tool to build excitement for the sex. After all, the viewer is watching porn because she wants to be aroused; otherwise she could rent a mainstream movie or just turn on the TV. The only thing I can offer her that mainstream filmmakers can’t are depictions of explicit sex, so that’s what I need to focus on.

So the next question is, what makes sex hot? Forbidden attraction is high on the list. Lusting after someone you’re “not supposed to” lust after. Whether it’s an inappropriate attraction due to age difference, race, family relations, a teacher and student, a boss and employee – there are so many areas in life where we’re told not to act on our sexual attraction. So I try to exploit that theme as much as possible while giving the viewer a situation he can relate to. Not many of us can relate to falling for the pizza delivery guy and inviting him in for sex, but we can relate to having a secret crush on our teacher, or on our brother’s girlfriend.

In constructing the dialogue and story, I try to stay away from anything that doesn’t build tension and increase excitement for the sex scene. My job is to arouse, and so the story line, the dialogue, everything is structured with that end in mind. By the time the characters in the movie have sex, I want their sense of urgency to be believable, and I want the viewer to be craving a sexual release right along with them. If I can accomplish that, the movie is a success."

READ MORE: http://www.psychologytomorrowmagazine.com/ben-peck-nica-noelle-porn-talk-conversation-part-ii/

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Sunday 8 December 2013

How To Please Your Submissive

Ok, let's turn the tables here... How do you please your submissive?

All consensual relationships obviously are give & take and your subbie will have their requirements, needs, wants and also enjoy some special 'treats', right?

It'd be nice to hear from you what you do to make sure your sub's 'happy' and content. How do you look after them?

And you subbies, please tell us what pleases you, makes you happy, where your special delight comes from and what it is about?

Thanks for sharing,

Aidan xXx

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Friday 6 December 2013

How To Dominate A Man In Bed...

Yes alright, this one is a bit tongue-in-cheek...

But really, do you think there are differences between genders? What are they? Have you come up with a 'winning recipe'?

And you subbie-men, what makes you get weak in the knees? What would you (respectfully of course) recommend to your Topping Ladies & Gentlemen?

Go on, spill the beans (you will inspire)!

Love,

Aidan xXx

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Wednesday 4 December 2013

How and When Did You First Become Aware of Your Kink or Fetish?

It would be great to hear your stories about this!

Here is one of mine: A many of you know I've got a huge 'thing' for feet. Although I'm not always 100% sure what to actually do with them once I've got 'the pleasure' I do think feet are absolutely the sexiest, most beautiful thing EVER. ;-)

I became aware of an attraction to other peoples' feet when I was very young. I saw this young woman wearing lots of toe rings and going barefeet (very hippy, I know) and I just couldn't take my eyes of them.

Now, as I said I was still quite young and certainly hadn't worked out my sexuality by that stage. BUT I knew I found this 'image' arousing in some strange way.

Ever since I've played with the fantasy and later on with the reality of feet as a fetish. I really can't explain it - it's just there, and there is not an iota of doubt in my mind about that FEET ARE SEXY!!! Strange one that...

Over to you!

Love, Aidan x

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Tuesday 3 December 2013

Think Kink - BiZarre Events' Free Mini-Zine

 Hello All - I'm pretty sure I've just given birth...

Here is the first edition of BiZarre Event's (free) 'Think Kink' mini-zine. This small but of course perfectly well-endowed little fellow provides an introduction to the world of fetish and kink to those wonderful souls as yet uninitiated to such pleasures.

The mini-mag is printed on a single sheet of A4 paper and then niftily folded into this brilliant little publication. When I first saw this clever solution for self-publishing I just HAD to do something with it!

I'll get these to the printers now, and once they're back we'll make them available in the right places. Please let me know if you'd like a few copies to hand out. There'll also be a downloadable version (PDF) on our website soon.

I hope you like it!

Love,

Aidan BiZarre xXx

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Sunday 1 December 2013

Slave or Submissive - What's The Difference?

How do you personally define the difference between a 'slave' and a 'submissive'?

The general feeling amongst intelligent, consensual players is of course that everyone is free to define those terms in any way they see fit. And I agree, but I also feel that, not only for newbies, it is important to try and define this sort of label at least once, for oneself.

How about these statements for example?

A slave is someone who has 'given up all rights of individuality and self-determination'.

Or how about this one: 'A slave is not neccessarily submissive'...

Or perhaps 'these terms define a certain level of permnanence in the relationship'?

What do you think?

Love,

Aidan x

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